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Female traits of Autism (ASD) / Asperger’s… Are you an eccentric anxiety-sufferer; a fabulously unique people-pleaser; or an intellectual inward-thinker?

by | Oct 24, 2017 | News & Views | 4 comments

Learning about Asperger’s and Autism in females

The UK’s National Autistic Society states that autism is – “A lifelong, developmental condition that affects how a person communicates with and relates to other people, and how they experience the world around them.”

Certain traits  –  being known as a tad quirky or eccentric; suffering from anxiety; being a ‘people-pleaser’; experiencing repetitive thought patterns that tend to be about oneself; can be linked to high functioning autism. (It’s important to understand that autism and Asperger Syndrome are conditions that an individual is born with; read more HERE).

Autism is given as a diagnosis of ASD, or autism spectrum disorder, and often referred to as ASC, or autism spectrum condition. Asperger Syndrome or Asperger’s is a high functioning autism condition, although the ‘profile’ or name itself is being used less now, in favour of the broader term ‘high functioning autism’.

Female autism has traditionally been less well known and talked about. Arguably, few people have done as much to promote awareness of female autism than Author Tania Marshall. Author of ‘books including ‘I am Aspien Woman’, Tania states that ‘Aspien Women, like warriors and superheroes, strive tenaciously with their unique and extraordinary gifts and challenges.’

She writes eloquently about the subject HERE.

In her books, Tania uses the charming phrase ‘Aspien’ to describe a female with Autism or Asperger Syndrome. “Aspien Woman is used affectionately, and serves a strength-based identity,” she explains in the tome ‘I am Aspien Woman’.

So, what if you identify with some common aspien traits… they include being anxious by nature, and maybe a people-pleaser and an inward-thinker; you change your appearance or hair colour frequently; have difficulty with conflict; are a tad eccentric; have some OCD-traits; experience food sensitivities or gluten / wheat allergies or intolerences; love nature and animals, and may work in this field; have a superior long-term memory; and are complimented on the fact you’re young-looking?

If you believe you’re on the spectrum but have only just started to read about high functioning autism, ASDs or Asperger’s, you will undoubtedly be having many ‘lightbulb’ moments now and in the near future, having identified with these traits. Have you always felt a little different? Been searching for that elusive reason why you can’t get to the bottom of your stress-related illnesses (maybe digestive related, or connected to your immunity)?

The media (in the UK at least) has picked up the fact that many women are gaining ASD diagnosis late in life, for many because they realise autism runs in their families, and perhaps started researching spectrum conditions on behalf of their child. The Independent and the Guardian both recently ran stories on this.

If you identify with any of what’s been said here, maybe now’s the time, whatever your age, to start researching the possibility of autism and Asperger’s as a diagnosis, via your health practitioner – it could literally be the start of the rest of your life…. (Read our blogs on the subject HERE & HERE).

A little disclaimer – here at we don’t claim to be experts about Autism Spectrum Disorders; the information we post here is based purely on our own exposure and experiences.

Here’s Tania’s book that will undoubtedly help you come to terms with your potential ASD diagnosis… it really is a game-changer, and comes highly recommended…


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  2. Melody

    My son was recently diagnosed and the more I looked into ASC AND how female traits differ, the more I recognised scenes and feelings from my own life. I spoke to my GP who said ‘well, you’ve got to 40-something’…but I persevered for a questionnaire. Drumming up the courage to go again. Don’t think a diagnosis or lack of will change my support system but it may answer questions on why I find the ‘simple’ things so strenuous, including light social interaction, but in-depth study is a haven.

    • admin

      Well done Melody – this is so prevalent currently, e.g. Mums ‘realising’ they’re autistic, due to family assessments.
      Good on you for persevering with the questionnaire. PLLEEEEAASSSSE drum up the courage to go again!
      You may not feel that it will help particularly (or change your support system) but, in the opinion of the curator of this blog, the process is far reaching. Life changing in fact. Although depending on where you live, the timescales (and access to assessment) may be challenging, you’ve nothing to lose. Having that validation can be so important. There’s a BLOG on life after assessment too on the site. Good luck and thanks for reading!


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