Christmas wasn’t so long ago at the time of writing, and post-holidays, social media sadly included posts from some individuals bemoaning the fact that their autistic child somehow spoiled the festive period because of their ‘overloads or meltdowns’, or general erratic behaviour. (Remember, autistic meltdowns are a form of ‘neural high jacking’; a debilitated state of incoherence. They are not behaviours).
(Incidentally, it is our intention, following on from our impending book ‘Autism from A to Z’ (out March 2020), to publish a further book presented by Spectra.blog, specifically about managing holiday festivities with autistic family members.)
But in the meantime, here are a few pointers that can be applied to any family or social gathering, in terms of helping autistic individuals enjoy festive or celebratory periods:
Put social conventions out of the window
Any expectation of a certain way to behave won’t work for an autist, for a set day of the year. This could include sitting at a table ‘nicely’ for three food courses; playing games that involve being stared at (or laughed with/at); or conversing with people excessively, especially if they’re not common house visitors. Think outside the box, and celebrate in a way that the autist enjoys, not that third parties expect.
Avoid physical requests for hugs and kisses
The age old concept of a ‘hug in return for gift’ is abhorrent, and not kind, if it isn’t consensual. May autists find physical contact uncomfortable, especially from people that they don’t see regularly. Likewise a kiss can be an invasion of privacy. It is best to let the child choose their level of interaction – a handshake at arm’s length can be a good compromise.
Avoid changing the room layout
Some autists dislike change in their environment, and things like Xmas trees or new chairs and sofas can take some getting used to. Ask the autist what they can tolerate, or would like; give them a safe haven of familiarity, even if some areas need to be changed. Could a small Xmas tree go on a windowsill instead, for example?
Consider the sensory input
Avoid excessive sensory input, unless the individual especially enjoys it – examples would be flashy tree lights, party music, high levels of social chit-chat, Xmas crackers, popping balloons, etc. Combined, these aspects can be a fast-track to meltdown and anxiety. Ear defenders, music headphones and quiet spaces for the autist would be good compromises. (Remember that most autists experience over or under-sensitivity to sounds, touch, light, temperatures etc; this can affect them greatly. The National Autistic Society (NAS) states – “Many [autistic] people have difficulty processing everyday sensory information. Any of the senses may be over or under-sensitive, or both, at different times. These sensory differences can affect behaviour, and can have a profound effect on a person’s life.”
A word on autistic children and birthday parties
Birthday parties can be paradoxical for autistic children. Because of the fact they’re autistic, they may find it hard to socialise at parties, or may not even get invitations to many peer events. You can’t force someone to enjoy a social event (and it is hard to plan ahead and know how one may feel on a set day – even if you want to go to an event, if you’re overwhelmed from an autistic sensory perspective that day, or are feeling anxious, you won’t enjoy it.) So, it is best to ask the autistic child what they want to do. Maybe they could go a little early to meet the birthday child while it is quiet, and then decide whether to stay? Maybe they will go if a parents attends too? Perhaps they’d rather see the child another time for a quieter birthday celebration? If it’s their own ‘party’, follow the child’s lead on what they’d like to do – few autistic children would enjoy a raucous, busy party (and if they do, they may need copious ‘down time’ to recover thereafter). It could be for example that having a couple of close friends over, or a day at a favourite attraction, is preferred? Look out for SEN-supportive events at local attractions, as these are often quieter with less uncomfortable sensory output.
A little disclaimer – here at Spectra.blog we don’t claim to be experts about autism; the information we post here is based purely on our own exposure and experiences.
Firstly we must apologise for the ‘radio silence’, of late – the new book ‘Autism from A to Z’ is almost ready to be published, with its launch at a UK-based SEN event in March 2020, and has been keeping us busy. The book, by Kathy Carter, is a practical guide and information resource collating the most popular articles from this website. It has been created for families and professionals, and curates the latest thinking, information and first-person insight regarding autism spectrum conditions. We will let you know when it is out! It will initially be available on online sites, and then in bricks and mortar stores.
In the meantime, here are a few of the very kind reviews we have received ahead of the book’s launch:
‘Autists are amazing and unique, and this book consolidates information and experience supporting this viewpoint. Autism from A to Z is easy to digest, and I love how it’s compartmentalised in alphabetical order.’
TH, Independent Cornwall Autism Network
‘Autism from A to Z is full of information that people new to the autistic world would find extremely helpful when either discovering themselves, or supporting a loved one or client.’
EM, Kent Autistic Trust
‘I recommend this book for anyone new to autism. It’s very positive, and promotes self-care and mutual respect for differing views. It’s a very good starting point for further study, and is written by someone with personal experience; I found myself hooked.’
LA, autistic adult
A thousand souls – a poem about autism by Kathy Carter of spectra.blog
In a lifetime we’re privileged to meet eighty thousand souls.
Around a thousand have autism; still with dreams and goals.
On the autistic spectrum, processing is a chore.
Not necessarily ‘impaired’; nor diseased to their core.
Educators, practitioners, families and friends
Lacking understanding, yet on them the autist depends.
How many of this thousand that we’ll meet, have diagnosis?
Many are still unaware; yet we share symbiosis.
Without autism, computers, smart phones, tech are less enduring;
Pioneers forging ‘aspie’ paths: Tesler, Gates and Turing.
So, what’s the difference in these souls, the thousand that we’ll meet?
Maybe sensory challenges, to light and sound and heat.
A difficulty blending in; socialisation quirks.
Different communication styles; a trait that sometimes irks.
But at their core, a simple truth – differences in processing.
A brain speed sometimes fast or slow – constantly assessing.
These souls, often creative: scientists, artists, writers.
Musicians, sculptors, poets, whose creations still delight us.
Many leading figures; Michelangelo, Warhol, Mozart
Are thought to have been autistic – perhaps it drove their art.
Yet those with autism don’t want reverence; handling with kid glove.
Just inclusion, acceptance, and a healthy dose of love.
Much less ignorance: ‘Well. We’re all autistic aren’t we?’
No. And while we’re at it, that young autist isn’t naughty.
Another irk. ‘You must be high functioning’, peers say.
It’s called ‘autistic masking’, to get one through the day.
So, these one thousand souls, that we’ll meet throughout our life.
They’re our bosses, neighbours, workmates; a husband and a wife.
The literal thinkers, loyal peers, problem solvers great.
The listeners, grounded cynics, the friends we truly rate.
Their daily struggles are unseen. Until the curtains close.
Their difference in processing results in crashing lows.
So education, acceptance and awareness are our goals
To understand autism, and embrace these thousand souls.
Spectra.Blog author Kathy Carter’s new book, entitled ‘Autism from A-Z’, will shortly be published via Sirenia Books. Advance Review Copies will be available to professionals who may like to receive a complimentary copy for review.
Please contact us at email@example.com to express an interest. We invite contact from educators, counsellors, care staff, those working at local authorities, therapists (e.g. occupational / speech etc), CAMHS teams, representatives of autism and disability charities, as well as autism advocates with an established social media following.
Thereafter the title will be available for general sale via online retailers, and as special order at bricks and mortar book-sellers.
Thanks for your support while the author has slowed down content on Spectra.Blog while the book is being finalised!
This article is extracted from the author’s forthcoming book ‘Autism from A-Z’, and looks at the legislation concerning autism – for anyone hoping to access support for themselves or their families, it is important to familiarise oneself with it. Please note that the National Autistic Society (NAS) has extensive information at the website: www.autism.org.uk under the heading ‘Accessing Adult Social Care – England’, detailing how autists can access a needs assessment by social services, and what support is available.
There is legislative framework in place to protect autistic people – in the UK, this legislation includes:
*The Children Act 2004 – its main principles revolve around promoting safety and child protection. The Act covers local authorities and professionals that work with minors, and also covers the roles of parents and guardians and the UK courts, in terms of how to protect minors. This would include safeguarding and protecting local children, assessing their needs and promoting their upbringing by families (if safe to do so). The Act also details supervision orders, emergency protection, provision of accommodation to suitably vulnerable or abandoned minors, as well as so-called disabled children, or those with so-called special needs.
*The Children and Young person’s Act 2008 – this extends the existing framework in England & Wales in terms of appropriate care for minors, and includes overseeing care placements and educational settings for ‘in care’ minors.
*The Education Act 2002 – this ensures that school governing bodies, local education authorities and educators have consistent arrangements to safeguard children.
*The Children and Families Act 2014 – this aims to ensure increased protection for vulnerable minors, including ‘in care’ children, and those with ‘additional needs’. It places obligations on local authorities to produce legally binding Educational & Health Care Plans (EHCPs) for minors with such needs. EHCPs aim to make sure needs are met continually, and teachers and parents may request this. Local authorities (with health and social care commissioners) will have their own Autism Health Care Pathways, which generally include these elements (possibly with differing terminology): Local Offer (where a lead professional is selected), Team Around the Family (where an assessment need is considered, e.g. an autism assessment), Referral, and then Integrated Assessment, My Plan (including the setting’s allowance of budgets), followed by My Life and My Review, e.g. goals and reviews for the individual. The aim of the process is to establish support needs, and then plan for outcomes, via a multi-agency system.
*Guidance also extends to single assessment processes, carried out by local authorities regarding welfare concerns – an assessment aims to determine if child needs any protection, and is carried out together with the Working Together to Safeguard Children 2015 guidance. These processes are multi-disciplinary, and involve all services involved with the family.
Local (LA) autism assessment
In the UK, the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) has guidelines for autism assessment that local authorities and health and social care commissioners should follow, in order to meet best practice, and present their own Autism Health Care Pathway (see: www.tiny.cc/NICEpathway). For children requiring autism assessment, Local Authorities tend to refer individuals to the Community Paediatrics team, local specialist services (depending on the need), or the Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service, or CAMHS (although this service does have ‘referral thresholds’ that may include ‘associated mental health difficulties’. The NAS has previously criticised CAMHS (source: www.tiny.cc/NAS_CAMHS), stating in 2010: ‘Forty four per cent of parents find it difficult to get a first referral to CAMHS for their child, with a quarter waiting over four months for a first appointment, following referral. [CAMHS] professionals told us that many of their colleagues had not had basic autism training, meaning that they could not treat mental health problems in a child with autism).
UK statutory services available for autistic individuals
In the UK, there are some national statutory services available to autistic individuals and their families. For example, the Government has a duty to provide national statutory services at local level, e.g. schooling, housing, healthcare services, healthcare professionals (such as speech and language therapists), as well as child and adult services in the community, e.g. CAMHS. The Care Act 2014 and the Families Act 2014 cover assessment, care and support for those in need of it, and this legislation helps with a framework for local service providers to adhere to.
So, the above content is a brief over-view of UK legislation and statutory services. The big questions include: how easy is it to gain an autism assessment, especially for children; how is it fair that local services and waiting times differ so much across different geographical locations; is there sufficient and easy access to social care locally; and why is there (anecdotally) a seeming lack of training, understanding and awareness concerning many educators (in terms of identifying and supporting autistic pupils), and also mental health professionals? The NAS has reported that Government funding has been cut from services for disabled children and their families in England, and in 2019, joined forces with the Disabled Children’s Partnership (DCP), to call on the UK Government to reinstate funding, via the DCP’s ‘Give it Back’ campaign (see: www.autism.org.uk). The NAS also has extensive information at the same website under the heading ‘Accessing Adult Social Care – England’, detailing how autists can access a needs assessment by social services, and what support is available. They also detail how autistic people can access social care, services from the NHS and universal credit, as well as information on SEND school funding.
Disclaimer – Please note, we don’t proclaim to be experts on autism, and the information posted here is based on the author’s own experiences and exposures to autism.